Determining a child custody agreement during a divorce is always challenging. Most Oklahoma couples choose joint physical custody, where children spend half their time with each parent. While some experts deem this the best choice, it doesn’t always work.
Situations where joint custody may not be appropriate
Most parents want the best for their children, but sometimes they may feel pressured into agreeing to a child custody agreement that may not necessarily work. One of the most significant issues is that your ex may not be a fit parent. Many reasons fall into this category and can include physical or emotional abuse, addiction, or neglect.
At other times, life circumstances may intervene. Sometimes, parents discover joint custody impractical when their children start school. Picking up children and attending their school activities and sports events on an equal basis only works if ex-spouses live nearby. Sometimes, one parent will move hundreds of miles away because of a job opportunity. In these instances, you simply cannot exchange caring for your children every few days. As your children get older, they may decide they don’t like a 50/50 arrangement.
Modifying your child custody agreement
Although you may not want to go through another possible battle with your ex-souse over your children, sometimes a custody order modification is necessary. If you decide to pursue this avenue, you should be prepared to show your reasons for doing so. If circumstances have changed regarding your ex’s fitness to be a parent, ensure you have sufficient documentation to prove it.
For other situations, try to discuss the best course of action regarding custody with the other parent. As is usually the case,, staying out of court will alleviate stress and minimize costs.